MARRIAGE EQUATION
Gen. 2: 24- 25.”Therefore, shall a man leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave to his wife: and they shall be one flesh”
Today’s reading deals with fundamental issues that no married couple can ignore. Anytime they are compromised, troubles result in any home. First, it talks about a man leaving his parents before joining his wife. This is very important. The marriage equation is: The man + His wife = One. Neither of their parents is in that equation. Anytime you add another individual, father, mother, an uncle, a niece or another man or woman, you will get a different result other than what god originally planned. If you want to have a happy home, you must not involve your parents in the day to day running of that home. A man who is still tied to the apron string of his father is not a man but a boy. Marriage is not for boys but for men. This speaks about maturity. To a large extent, you should be independent financially, morally, socially and spiritually before contemplating marriage. Marriage is responsibility and not just fun. Many marriages have broken down just because either partner is heavily dependent on the parents for advice. If you run to your dad or mum each time a mosquito bites you, you are immature. You are not yet ripe for the marriage institution.
When the wife misbehaves at home, some husbands will immediately take a phone and call her parents to report the matter. That is immaturity. Your ability to contain and resolve misunderstandings between you and your partner makes you mature. You do not need to inform either of your parents whenever something goes wrong. First pray and discuss on how to resolve it amicably between you and your spouse. But when it goes beyond your control, go to your pastor to help out. There is no challenge that a family faces that cannot be resolved. If couples can learn to ask counsel of the Holy Spirit over certain challenges, they will enjoy their home. A man must be financially independent before going into marriage. Having rich or wealthy parents is no excuse. Before you enter into marriage you must have a viable source of livelihood. It is only a wicked man that would enter marriage when the fellow knows he has no reasonable source of livelihood. Do you want to bring your wife and children into lack, shame and untold hardship? It is wisdom to settle basic needs of feeding, housing etc before wedding. Be separate from anyone capable of hindering your oneness.
P.S: Every family faces conflict. While conflicts make some couples understand one another better, they separate others. What do you allow conflict to do in your home?
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