You have a part to play in getting your partner

PART OF THIS PROCESS?

Gen. 2: 21; “And the Lord God caused a deep sleep to fall upon Adam, and he slept: and he took one of his ribs, and closed up the flesh instead thereof”’

Marriage is a great institution that has criss-crossed nations,  tribes, academic and social-cultural goals and affiliations. Not too many married couples are finding marriage pleasant. A brother was planning for his wedding sometime ago and he went to tell some of his customers who were directors of an engineering company. They told him they were fed up of their experience with marriage and were looking for a way out, while he was taking steps into it. Several homes were broken with the highest divorce figures coming from the West. Many couples are living in hell. In fact, if you want to describe the torments of hell, just say the situation in hell is comparable, though far worse than what obtains in their homes. And they will get the message. Yet originally, God designed the family to be an extension of Heaven. It is my prayer that whatever your family has lost or is missing which should give you heaven on earth will be divinely supplied.

In this passage, Gen. 2:21-24, although Adam was asleep when God was working on Eve, he however made some certain inputs. He contributed a rib. As a searching single, you have to make a sacrificial contribution for your Eve to come out. The size of your contribution will determine how your finished product- your wife will be. That contribution could be in the area of prayer, fasting, sowing seeds into the type of home or partner you want. It could also be to what extent you have prepared. Sister, if you want a good home, are you prepared to be a good wife? As married couples you will need to make sacrificial contributions in order to have your desired home. Turning a house into a home is the responsibility of both partners. Proverbs 14:1 says the woman who sees herself as a builder and commits herself to building her home is wise. If you build your home, you will enjoy it. If you pull it down, you will regret it. Are you building or pulling down your home? Moving house into home is a process. It takes time. Give it what it takes.

FROM: OPEN HEAVENS, A DAILY DEVOTIONAL.

THE WISE WOMAN – Deacon Ayotunde Sobola (Parish Pastor)

This is an excerpt of the Pastor’s message during the recent GOOD WOMEN FELLOWSHIP in the church on the 27^th of Sept. 2009.

Introduction: Proverbs 14: 1. “The wise woman builds her house, but with her own hands the foolish one tears hers down.

Psalm 127:1. “Except the Lord builds a house, the work of the builders is useless”.

Heb. 3:4 “For every house is built by someone, but God is the builder of everything”.

There are three outlines for this teaching:

1. God’s requirement for building a house.

2. God’s counsel to women.

3. An example of a wise woman.

We need to understand that the builder of all things is God. So no matter what you want to build, without God it is nothing. Anything that will last needs God for it to be successful, for without God, we can do nothing.

When we join this statement together with Proverbs 14:1, we can say that a woman with God’s support is the builder of the home. Every woman working hand-in-hand with God is the one that can build a house. Funny but true that the responsibility for building a home belongs to the woman.

1. God’s requirement for building a house is WISDOM. Mat. 7:24-27, Luke 6: 46-49, Pro. 24:3

2. God’s counsel to women. Pro. 14:1, Pro. 12: 4, Pro.31: 26-27

3. An example of a wise woman: ABIGAIL. What can we learn from the life of Abigail? 1 Sam. 25: 1-42. These are some characteristics of Abigail, the wise woman.

i. She had good rapport with the servants. It can be your house girl, house maid, your husband’s colleague, your workers etc verse 14. Naaman’s servant girl rescued him from leprosy, you need to have good relationship with this people in your life.

ii. I sam. 25: 18. She made haste upon hearing the news, she is decisive, many women can’t take decisions on their own.

iii. She didn’t start the process by blaming the husband or calling her father-in-law to report the husband, you need to learn to keep information in your marriage.

iv. She spoke with wisdom to David and respected him.

v. Abigail is well informed about her environment, she’s aware that David had been appointed king even though Saul was still ruling them, some women don’t know about their environment, they don’t read.

vi. She is given to hospitality.

vii. She saved her family from David’s anger. Saved David from killing unnecessarily.

viii. She understands her husband’s mood, she didn’t talk to him in his drunken state. Many women do not understand when to make requests or talk to their husband.

ix. Many women would have divorced the husband after thinking they have been patient enough, the husband died when it is time.

x. She was rewarded as she became David’s wife, a queen in Isreal.

God can use you to save your household, don’t give up no matter the situation in your family, God will fight for you and your home will become a testimony in Jesus name.