You have a part to play in getting your partner

PART OF THIS PROCESS?

Gen. 2: 21; “And the Lord God caused a deep sleep to fall upon Adam, and he slept: and he took one of his ribs, and closed up the flesh instead thereof”’

Marriage is a great institution that has criss-crossed nations,  tribes, academic and social-cultural goals and affiliations. Not too many married couples are finding marriage pleasant. A brother was planning for his wedding sometime ago and he went to tell some of his customers who were directors of an engineering company. They told him they were fed up of their experience with marriage and were looking for a way out, while he was taking steps into it. Several homes were broken with the highest divorce figures coming from the West. Many couples are living in hell. In fact, if you want to describe the torments of hell, just say the situation in hell is comparable, though far worse than what obtains in their homes. And they will get the message. Yet originally, God designed the family to be an extension of Heaven. It is my prayer that whatever your family has lost or is missing which should give you heaven on earth will be divinely supplied.

In this passage, Gen. 2:21-24, although Adam was asleep when God was working on Eve, he however made some certain inputs. He contributed a rib. As a searching single, you have to make a sacrificial contribution for your Eve to come out. The size of your contribution will determine how your finished product- your wife will be. That contribution could be in the area of prayer, fasting, sowing seeds into the type of home or partner you want. It could also be to what extent you have prepared. Sister, if you want a good home, are you prepared to be a good wife? As married couples you will need to make sacrificial contributions in order to have your desired home. Turning a house into a home is the responsibility of both partners. Proverbs 14:1 says the woman who sees herself as a builder and commits herself to building her home is wise. If you build your home, you will enjoy it. If you pull it down, you will regret it. Are you building or pulling down your home? Moving house into home is a process. It takes time. Give it what it takes.

FROM: OPEN HEAVENS, A DAILY DEVOTIONAL.

THE WISE WOMAN – Deacon Ayotunde Sobola (Parish Pastor)

This is an excerpt of the Pastor’s message during the recent GOOD WOMEN FELLOWSHIP in the church on the 27^th of Sept. 2009.

Introduction: Proverbs 14: 1. “The wise woman builds her house, but with her own hands the foolish one tears hers down.

Psalm 127:1. “Except the Lord builds a house, the work of the builders is useless”.

Heb. 3:4 “For every house is built by someone, but God is the builder of everything”.

There are three outlines for this teaching:

1. God’s requirement for building a house.

2. God’s counsel to women.

3. An example of a wise woman.

We need to understand that the builder of all things is God. So no matter what you want to build, without God it is nothing. Anything that will last needs God for it to be successful, for without God, we can do nothing.

When we join this statement together with Proverbs 14:1, we can say that a woman with God’s support is the builder of the home. Every woman working hand-in-hand with God is the one that can build a house. Funny but true that the responsibility for building a home belongs to the woman.

1. God’s requirement for building a house is WISDOM. Mat. 7:24-27, Luke 6: 46-49, Pro. 24:3

2. God’s counsel to women. Pro. 14:1, Pro. 12: 4, Pro.31: 26-27

3. An example of a wise woman: ABIGAIL. What can we learn from the life of Abigail? 1 Sam. 25: 1-42. These are some characteristics of Abigail, the wise woman.

i. She had good rapport with the servants. It can be your house girl, house maid, your husband’s colleague, your workers etc verse 14. Naaman’s servant girl rescued him from leprosy, you need to have good relationship with this people in your life.

ii. I sam. 25: 18. She made haste upon hearing the news, she is decisive, many women can’t take decisions on their own.

iii. She didn’t start the process by blaming the husband or calling her father-in-law to report the husband, you need to learn to keep information in your marriage.

iv. She spoke with wisdom to David and respected him.

v. Abigail is well informed about her environment, she’s aware that David had been appointed king even though Saul was still ruling them, some women don’t know about their environment, they don’t read.

vi. She is given to hospitality.

vii. She saved her family from David’s anger. Saved David from killing unnecessarily.

viii. She understands her husband’s mood, she didn’t talk to him in his drunken state. Many women do not understand when to make requests or talk to their husband.

ix. Many women would have divorced the husband after thinking they have been patient enough, the husband died when it is time.

x. She was rewarded as she became David’s wife, a queen in Isreal.

God can use you to save your household, don’t give up no matter the situation in your family, God will fight for you and your home will become a testimony in Jesus name.

christian singles forum: YOU NEED PATIENCE - SINGLE AND MARRIED

christian singles forum: YOU NEED PATIENCE - SINGLE AND MARRIED

BE PATIENT- PASTOR ADEBOYE COUNSELS

FOR THE SINGLE AND MARRIED

BY PASTOR E.A ADEBOYE

RUTH AND OFFERS

Rom 2:7 “To them who by patient continuance in well doing seek for glory and honour and immortality” Also read Ruth 3: 8-10

Ruth was an outstanding lady right from the time she had an encounter with the God of the Jews. She loved God and His people to the point that she gave up her people and nation just like Abraham. And like Abraham, by so doing, she was responding to a divine call. As at the time she was about to leave, Orpah, her sister-in-law, also of Moab, called her aside and asked: “Do you really mean to go with Mama Naomi back to her place?” Yes, she replied,” why? Or have you been brainwashed by the teachings you have been receiving?” Orpah asked with probing eyes. “I believe all we were taught because I have found out that the God of the Jews is real. Why should I continue in Moab and starve myself of more knowledge about this God?” Ruth replied. Orpah was shocked; she stared at her sister-in-law in surprise, “you mean you will forsake your people and their religion and follow the strange God and the customs of the Isrealites? You must be a fool! Have you considered the reality of what mama Naomi said: that there is no guarantee of having another husband or hope of a better life in Isreal, while there are several men to choose from in Moab?”

“Husband or not, I am going with our mother-in-law to her country, people and will serve her God. She has offered me what nobody else in Moab could. I cannot afford to lose this golden opportunity. Do you care to join us?” Ruth asked. “Keep your decision to yourself. I am better off in Moab than any place else. Bye, Orpah said and left.

Ruth went with Naomi to Bethlehem. She had no hope of a suitor because Jews were not expected to marry Gentiles. But over a period of time, people saw that she was a true believer in the Almighty God. Her life and conduct were exemplary. Before long, suitors started coming. But she turned them down as she waited for God. Then he came. When a believer is refusing to accept the offers of the world, it is because there is a better offer for the fellow. Are some individuals asking your hand in marriage, but while praying God says no? It is because He has reserved your Boaz through whom your destiny can be actualized. Also, we learn that in order to get God’s best, patience is inevitable. To get God’s best; you may have to turn down man’s offer. Don’t jump at any offer. If Ruth had done so, she would have been history rather than making history. Pray about all offers.

Addedum: The impatient will most likely miss God’s best. Ask God for grace to patiently wait on Him.

FROM: OPEN HEAVEN- A DAILY DEVOTIONAL.

WORKING FOR GOD IS PROFITABLE

Sunday 20th September was the Grand finale of the Redeemed Christian Bible College Weekend.

The theme is THE GLORIOUS WORKMAN.

Below is the summary of the message.

1. WHO IS A GLORIOUS WORKMAN? 1 Tim. 3: 1-13

A glorious workman in Christian parlance is the fellow who among others is:

i. Born again – John 3: 3,5
ii. Sanctified – 1 Thess. 4: 3-4
iii. Holy Spirit filled – Acts 1:8
iv. A learner/scholar – 2 Tim. 2: 15
v. A doer of the word of God – James 1: 22-25
vi. A preacher of the word of God – 2 Tim. 2: 1-3
vii. A teacher of the word of God – 1 Tim. 3:2
viii. A good example, someone who lives above reproach.
ix. Someone who lives above the vanities of this life. Phil. 3: 7-8
x. A heaven- bound follower of Jesus Christ. 1 cor. 11:1

2. IN WHAT AREAS CAN ONE BECOME A GLORIOUS WORKMAN FOR GOD?
1 Cor. 12:4-11

i. As keeper of God’s house.
ii. As a singer.
iii. As a soul- winner
iv. As a prayer warrior
v. As pastor
vi. As a teacher
vii. As a counselor
viii. As an artisan/technician/ professional. Read Exo. 31:2, 35: 30-31, 36: 1,2, 38: 22 with understanding.
ix. As a giver to God’s project.

3. THE REWARD OF THE GLORIOUS WORKMAN. Mark 10: 28-30.

To be a glorious workman could be tasking but the reward is equally enticing. The following are some of the rewards of the glorious workman:

i. He becomes a friend of the Master. –John 15:15
ii. His prayers are positively answered – John15: 16
iii. He is protected from Satanic attacks – Psalm 105: 14-15
iv. He is blessed with blessings that money cannot buy – Psalm 103: 1-5
v. He receives “well-done” here and after – Matt. 25: 21, Mark 10: 30, 2 Tim. 4: 7-8.

CONCLUSION

In the light of the foregoing, let us pray that the Almighty God will make us glorious workmen in His vineyard. We shall not miss the reward in Jesus name.

Finding the right partner in relationship

HIT IT RIGHT. FOR SINGLES

BY PASTOR E.A ADEBOYE

1 COR. 14:26-33

"For God is not the author of confusion, but of peace, as in all churches of the saints" 1 Cor. 14:33
God is interested in guiding His children in all areas of life, and in marriage particularly. As a searching single, it is important to crosscheck with God, what you have heard or seen in visions or dreams and be certain it is God before you say "God says". Believers should be more sensitive to the spirit to prevent from being misled by a voice or dream. It is wrong to tell a sister "God is leading me to you" when it is the flesh. How can God lead four or five brothers to the same sister? How can three sisters be fighting over one brother and all claim God led them? God is not the author of confusion! A particular brother so dreaded approaching the wrong sister in marriage to the point that he took time to settle it on his knees. Even after God led him in different ways, he exercised restrain and asked and received confirmations. Thereafter, he asked the Lord to go and tell the sister that he was her husband. he prayed on this until the Lord told him she had already known and even stated the day she knew. By the time he approached her, she told him the Lord had earlier informed her.

Beloved, are you not tired of approaching different people and not one is the right person? Are you not tired of saying "God says" when merely acting on lust? Are you not ashamed of being repeatedly turned down by your hit and miss tactic? Your inability to get it right suggests a high degree of prayerlessness, lack of openness to God and insincerity. A sister went in the company of an invited minister to a certain church. Before they left, several brothers were already asking him if they could approach her for marriage. He laughed and told them she was not only married but also had three children. How disappointed they must have been. If you are not ready to seek God's face in marriage, you may have to encounter shame, disgrace and disappointment. Stop being lazy. take time and seek the Lord and when He answers you and you eventually approach that individual, you can be sure you will not miss God's best.

FROM: OPEN HEAVENS, A DAILY DEVOTIONAL.